Organizational strategist Carolyn Buck-Luce & transformation designer, author, and teacher Robert Evans present...

Designing your Best Decade for Couples

Oct 6 - Oct 11, 2025 in Baja, Mexico

Led by: Carolyn Buck Luce & Rob Evans, Nicole Seawell, Teddi Dean, Saul

Financial aid is available. Apply Here.

A great partnership isn’t discovered. It’s designed.

When was the last time you and your spouse or partner sat down and got really clear on what you want your lives and your relationship to look like, not only for right now but for the next 10 years?

The way you create your desired reality is by visualizing it and planning for it – which is why taking the time as a couple to consciously design your life together is the key to a deep, enduring, and fulfilling relationship.

By sharing your thoughts, dreams, and fears with each other, you’re able to create a common language and a solid foundation of understanding that allows you to design the life you both dream of while navigating life’s unpredictable transitions as a loving and deeply committed couple.

And when you work together from a shared story of the future you both want to create – as opposed to looking backwards to a story of the past – you expand your understanding of what’s possible and are able to start planting the seeds for that future with greater intentionality and make your shared vision a reality.

In this workshop for couples co-facilitated with The Decade Game® creator Carolyn Buck-Luce and Collaboration Code™ creator Robert Evans, you and your partner will design your best decade yet and boldly imagine your epic future together.

What You’ll Gain

Through a combination of our MEA Owning Wisdom curriculum and Carolyn and Robert’s proven process of fun and experiential game-based activities, you will:

Create your own individual Decade Games so you both are clear on your “I game” and what you want for yourselves
Share your dreams, fears, and specific game ideas with each other to create a common language and solid foundation of support
Focus on opportunities for congruence and harmonics to build the supporting architecture of the "WE" game for your relationship
Discover how conflict can be a helpful tool for identifying opportunities to cultivate shared clarity and understanding
Dissolve “zero-sum game” thinking around your relationship and recognize that cultivating a strong “WE game” enhances your “I game” as well
Address important topics you may have been avoiding or procrastinating on discussing and reach shared understanding and resolution around them
Explore how you both want to stay useful and contribute in the world, so you feel more connected and purposeful
Create your “Sacred Third” relationship game board that will guide your choices for the next 10 years and become the storyboard for your epic life

By the end of your five days with Carolyn and Robert and the MEA faculty, you will have a new appreciation of each other as individuals and of yourselves as a couple and be excited to experience your next 10 years together.

You’ll have a shared set of values that are important to both of you, agreed-upon principles you can use to transform conflict into collaboration, and a language that will move conversations forward to a point of shared understanding.

Meet Your Faculty

Carolyn Buck-Luce

Creator of The Decade Game®

Organizational Strategist | Leadership Coach | Speaker | Thought Leader | Author

Carolyn is a gifted organizational strategist and leadership coach who has spent her career building highly effective businesses and teams. Throughout her multifaceted career, she has worn the hats of Diplomat, Wall Street Banker, Management Consultant, Healthcare Futurist, Talent Innovator, Professor, Author, Philanthropist, Executive Coach, Wife, Mother, Mother-in-law, and Grandmother.

Carolyn is also one of America’s most respected and accomplished voices on Women’s Leadership and their relationship with power. She uses her proprietary Decade Game® – which she created when she was eight years old (!) – to coach some of the world’s leading women to live their purpose and discover their destiny.

In addition to her book, Epic!: The Women’s Power Play Book, Carolyn has written for respected national outlets, including INC. and Huffington Post, and has co-authored numerous articles in the Harvard Business Review. In 2007, she was appointed by Mayor Bloomberg as a Commissioner of the New York City Commission on Women’s Issues. Carolyn is regarded as a thought leader and sought-after speaker in the area of women’s empowerment, inclusive cultures and both individual and institutional transformation.

Imaginal Labs, the company she founded with her life partner, Robert, helps courageous leaders find and trust their magic, and mobilize others to make a world that works.

Robert Evans

Design Thinker and Author of The Collaboration Code™ Series

DesignShop® Expert | Founder of Ernst & Young’s Accelerated Solutions Environment (ASE) | Adjunct Faculty Member at Auburn Theological Seminary | Chair of the Stewardship Circle Council for The Pachamama Alliance

Rob is one of the world’s leading experts at designing and delivering the innovative DesignShop® Process and other collaborative workshops. He has facilitated hundreds of highly successful sessions with many of the world’s leading organizations, including 38 of the 2019 Fortune 100 companies.

He has also worked with not-for-profit organizations such as the Harvard Graduate School of Education, Auburn Seminary, the Centers for Disease Control, and other federal and state agencies.

Rob is the author of the Collaboration Code™ series, a practical guide to successfully designing and leading collaborative work with groups small, large, and huge. He and Carolyn conduct workshops around the world teaching the Collaboration Code approach.

Rob is an adjunct faculty member at Auburn Theological Seminary and holds graduate degrees from Harvard Divinity School and Harvard University. He has held faculty positions at Harvard University, Harvard Divinity School, Northeastern University, and the Lesley College Graduate School of Management. He is chair of the Stewardship Circle Council for The Pachamama Alliance.

Robert and Carolyn are committed to their families and to living a life of meaning, purpose and adventure. Whether facilitating in the Boardroom, climbing to the summit of Mt. Kilimanjaro, or working with indigenous leaders in the jungles of the Amazon, they are life-long learners who will continue to bring their experiences to their work with courageous individuals, leaders, and couples.

What Carolyn & Robert's workshop participants had to say...

The next 10 years are going to happen whether you’re prepared or not, so why not give yourself the best possible chance to succeed in terms of your mindset, health, fitness, relationships, personal growth, and giving back? The Decade Game is about dreaming big in a safe space and designing the life that YOU want to have with your mate. Light bulbs will go off as you figure out what matters most and what you truly want out of life, both individually and as a couple.

Ken

Married for 37 years

The Decade Game is a playful yet powerful way to design your destiny and create a life you truly love. Its a magical roadmap to guide you on your journey and a reminder to stay true to yourself and your dreams along the way. I am very excited for my EPIC decade.

Sophia

Partnered for 3 years

Possibly the most significant piece was having the time and space for open and frank communication around each other’s hopes, desires and aspirations. The process is unique and deeply conceived on many levels including challenging internal perspectives and perceptions to discover and reveal possibilities far beyond practical and self-imposed limitations. The substantive content, structure and guidance are unique in their ability to inspire challenging questions and dialogue in a fun, safe and engaging environment. We thoroughly enjoyed our time especially given the genuine exchanges and encouragement received from Carolyn and Rob as facilitators as well as other attendees.

Scott

We needed this workshop more than we realized! How often is it you take time in your lives to dream together? Carolyn and Rob have designed an experience and a framework that enables you to really talk about what you want in life and in your relationship, then begin to chart a path forward. All the little things that can be difficult to discuss as a couple, and are likely holding you back from living your dreams, become much easier in a group, where the topics are voiced by other. This is something every couple should do!

Lisa

Partnered for 3 years

This workshop is for you if...

You’re a loving couple who wants to create a rich and fulfilling life together

You lead busy lives and haven’t had the time to sit down and visualize your ideal future

You want a shared vision for how you’ll care for yourselves and others as you navigate the twists and turns of midlife

You’re willing to openly communicate your thoughts, dreams, and fears with each other, and get clear on what you want

You’d like to cultivate connection and make a positive impact, as individuals and as a couple

You’re ready to take a proactive role in designing what you want your next 10 years to look like

You’re excited to take your relationship to an even deeper, more rewarding level as you create your epic future

Do this powerful work on our awe-inspiring beachside campus in Baja

Baja, Mexico

El Pescadero Resort

A stunning oceanfront property offering all of the amenities of a luxury hotel with beautiful beaches perfect for swimming or surfing. Located on the southern tip of the Baja Peninsula, just a short drive from Todo Santos, the “Pueblo Magico”.

Beach walks
Poolside lounging
Warm ocean waves
Fire pits
Magical sunsets

Meet Your MEA Facilitators

In addition to the powerful sessions conducted by Carolyn and Robert, you will be guided through the core MEA Owning Wisdom curriculum by our seasoned faculty members:

Nicole Seawell is the founder and chief communications strategist and coach of Sailor’s Sweet Life, LLC, recovered corporate attorney, president of The Beaird Family Foundation, and a tactical, actionable and very fun Enneagram Expert.

Teddi Dean is the Head of Mindfulness and Movement here at MEA. He offers a fun, accessible and wisdom filled approach to both mediation and yoga. Teddi loves working with beginners and has a gift in showing that each and every one of us is capable of dropping into stillness.

Teddi Dean grew up in Southern California where he was immersed in surf and skateboard culture. He was part of skateboard royalty as a team member of the infamous Powell and Peralta Bones Brigade.

If you have attended one of our workshops in Baja, you’ve probably met Saul and received some wisdom from him. He is a shaman, designer, and entrepreneur who has charmed and enlightened MEAers for seven years now.

Born in Mexico to a Mexican mother and Jewish father, Saul has always lived in multiple worlds and realities at the same time. His early sensitivity to other vibrations and premonitions shaped his life’s path, leading him to dedicate his life and work to serving others and supporting communities in their spiritual growth and well-being.

People of many different belief traditions and many with no spiritual beliefs at all have received valuable insights from their experiences with Saul. We are sure you will feel inspired and grateful for the time you get to spend in his calm and peaceful presence.

Don’t just grow older together. Grow EPIC together.

The next 10 years of your life can be whatever you want them to be.

But first you have to get clear on what that shared vision looks like for you – and what you have to do to make it a reality, while taking care of each other and tending to your individual needs as well.

It’s time to write the history of your shared future and make your lives and your relationship a game worth playing.

Are you ready to design the best decade of your lives so far?

People come for the workshops,
but they stay for the community

This is truly MEA’s “secret sauce” and something you can only experience in person: the powerful connections you will make, not only with your fellow participants and the incredible MEA faculty, but also the deeper sense of connection you will feel to your own inner self and the natural world around you.

Research into aging shows that your relationships play a HUGE role in your health and wellbeing later in life. At MEA, you will make deep and lasting connections and become part of a larger community that will make your life richer and more meaningful.

Many of our alumni cohorts have stayed in close touch for years after their workshop and we have a growing number of local alumni chapters all over the world. It’s a joy for us to see them continuing to offer each other community, friendship, and support as they create thriving midlives for themselves. So if you have been feeling at all disconnected or isolated on your journey, we would love to have you join us!

Have we mentioned the food?

The MEA experience is designed in part by Chip Conley, a world-renowned boutique hotelier, which means the food is amazing.

All of the ingredients are locally sourced, organic, and made from scratch in our kitchens by hand-picked chefs. The delicious breakfasts, lunches and dinners will leave you feeling nourished inside and out – not to mention the blended drinks made with fresh fruit and other top-shelf ingredients.

Each retreat center has multiple kitchens that always have snacks and beverages available. At MEA, we believe that thriving is delicious!

Your Workshop Includes

5 days and nights of lodging at our boutique luxury retreat center in Baja or Santa Fe with all of your meals, snacks, drinks and other amenities included
Daily sessions and experiential activities to help you connect with your inner self, envision your desired experience, and release what no longer serves you
Meditation covering a range of practices to soothe your nervous system and help you cultivate greater mindfulness and presence in the moment.

Movement to get the energy flowing and build your strength and agility as you chart your course forward to the life you want to live.
Incredible bonding experiences with the most amazing humans you’ll ever meet.
Three delicious, chef-prepared meals plus snacks throughout the day prepared from scratch with the freshest local ingredients.
Festive gatherings to cultivate connection and celebrate the joy and beauty of life.

Tuition starts at $4,000

Ready to start your journey?