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“It Can Only Ruin Your Life if it Ruins Your Character”


September 5, 2025
This little phrase (today’s title) has been echoing in my head lately, partly because a close friend who is very high profile has been dealing with being “canceled” in the public online square. On the surface, it sounds like something your grandmother might have muttered over a stiff drink, but it’s actually a profound reminder of what really matters, even when your character is being questioned.

We live in a world where “ruin” is everywhere—lost jobs, trampled reputations, broken hearts, shrinking bank accounts, gray hairs arriving uninvited. But here’s the kicker: none of those things touch the essence of who we are. They bruise our ego, yes. They rattle our plans. They can truly fuck with our bank account. But they don’t have the power to wreck the one thing that matters most—our character—unless we hand them the keys.

Character is the throughline. It’s the compass that still points north when the storm scrambles every other direction. It’s the difference between a stumble and a spiral. When we cling to integrity, humility, and even a pinch of humor (quirky humor, if you’re me), life’s setbacks become compost. Messy, smelly, sometimes unbearable—but ultimately the soil for new growth. Patience is a virtue.

The real “ruin” sneaks in when we let bitterness harden us, or when fear convinces us to betray our values. That’s when life’s detours stop being chapters in our story and start being the end of it.

So, the next time something feels like it’s unraveling—your plans, your reputation, your hairline—remember this: those things can sting, but they can’t touch the part of you that decides how you respond. Protect your character like it’s sacred. Because it is. And in the end, that’s the only thing life can’t ruin—unless you let it.

-Chip

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