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Shrinking the Distance from Head to Heart


“The education of the intellect to the exclusion of the education of the emotional life… will inevitably create an instrumental conception of life, in which all human activity will be valued as a means to an end, never for itself. When it is the persistent and universal tendency in any society to concentrate upon the intellect and its training, the result will be a society which amasses power, and with power the means to the good life, but which has no correspondingly developed capacity for living the good life for which it has amassed the means… We have immense power, and immense resources; we worship efficiency and success; and we do not know how to live finely. I should trace the condition of affairs almost wholly to our failure to educate our emotional life.” - John Macmurray

Yesterday, I was amused when I asked ChatGPT, “What does it mean, ‘My emotions got the best of me.’” There was no response. I tried again, no response. Finally, on my third try (and I promise you I wasn’t letting my emotions get the best of me by being impatient), ChatGPT said, it was “acting impulsively, losing control, or doing something that isn’t aligned with their usual behavior.” 

Why don’t we have a reciprocal language, “My reason got the best of me?” Why do we apologize for our tears? What if our emotions represent the best of me? Why does rationale trump emotions when it comes to our value in society?

Here’s a poem I’ve written to capture the balance of head and heart:

The Head and Heart Tango

Heart is hot, Head is cool,
Naturally unsuited for dance school.

Tried foxtrot, hustle, and stately waltz,
But all of them felt utterly false.

Head erect, serene, and cool
Was set aloft to guide and rule.

The throbbing, wayward, lonely Heart
That felt so often torn apart.

Then the tune changed today,
Dance floor calling them to play.

Head escorts Heart with a new rhythm
To heal this ever-lasting schism.

When we forget our fumbling, bumbling feet,
Feel the magic and hear the soulful beat,

Somewhere in the passionate ebb and flow
Our head and heart transform into tango.

Our rhythm begins to coincide
With a natural step-and-glide.

When Heart surrender to Head’s lead
And Head cherishes and serves Heart’s need.

These dance partners are new to this.
Head and Heart are full of bliss.

What was once entangled is now entwined.
If only we could teach this step to mankind.

-Chip

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