The Chrysalis Era: No Longer Young, Not Yet Old

February 12, 2024

The Chrysalis Era: No Longer Young, Not Yet Old

May 29, 2023

According to the Worldwide Independent Network of Market Research, which surveyed over 30,000 people across 41 countries, we start feeling old at 60 and stop feeling young at 40. This varies globally, with ages ranging from 44 in China to 70 in Italy. But what does this mean for the two liminal decades in between?

I believe midlife lasts longer than the twenty years between 40 and 60, which was part of the reason I wrote "Learning to Love Midlife." I don't believe there's a healthy roadmap to help us navigate this treacherous period when adult life satisfaction tends to be at its lowest point. 

If our 40s and 50s are our "Chrysalis Era," then we can learn something about becoming "imaginal" based on the caterpillar-to-butterfly journey. Your midlife may feel like the suspended death of the caterpillar, but it's the imaginal cells within the miraculous insect that contain the code to become a butterfly. The caterpillar's existing cells attack the Imaginal cells for being foreign, different, and unfamiliar. But the Imaginal cells are unaffected, as if floating just out of reach, full of imagination with what's to come. Gathering in clusters, they begin their movement toward transformation.

So, how might you become imaginal in your life? How might you break out of your habitual life and let your imagination flourish at a time when you're feeling a little out of control? The process is challenging, especially for us who are control addicts. But, it's in that surrendering to the unfolding, that loosening of the grip that Brené Brown calls the "midlife unraveling," that the magical metamorphosis is meant to happen. 

Part of the reason I created MEA is that I know that this process isn't easy. We were given guidance and support during adolescence, but we're bereft of rituals and roadmaps in middlescence. That's why midlife wisdom schools are essential—a place where one can go through this liminal process in the comfort of being with others who are also going through it. So, be prepared to unleash your imagination in Baja or Santa Fe with us. We're here to be your emerging butterfly whisperer. 


-Chip

Go deeper with a workshop, in person or online.

wo-sfe-24-012

Still Coming Out: Our Evolving Identity as Older LGBTQ+ People

June 17, 2024
 to 
June 22, 2024
Santa Fe, USA
wo-sfe-24-010

A Lifetime of Women’s Wellness: Thriving through Transitions with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz

June 24, 2024
 to 
June 29, 2024
Santa Fe, USA
wo-baja-24-030

Navigating Transitions with Barb Tint & Jeff Hamaoui

Jun 24, 2024
 to 
Jun 29, 2024
Baja, Mexico

Navigating Transitions with Barb Tint & Jeff Hamaoui

June 24, 2024
 to 
June 29, 2024
Baja, Mexico
Jun 24, 2024
 to 
Jun 29, 2024
Baja, Mexico

Still Coming Out: Our Evolving Identity as Older LGBTQ+ People

June 17, 2024
 to 
June 22, 2024
Santa Fe, USA

Blue Zones: Optimizing Your Longevity

Jun 17, 2024
 to 
Jun 22, 2024
Baja, Mexico
Jun 17, 2024
 to 
Jun 22, 2024
Baja, Mexico

Blue Zones: Optimizing Your Longevity

June 17, 2024
 to 
June 22, 2024
Baja, Mexico
Jun 17, 2024
 to 
Jun 22, 2024
Baja, Mexico

A Lifetime of Women’s Wellness: Thriving through Transitions with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz

June 24, 2024
 to 
June 29, 2024
Santa Fe, USA